Monday, January 7, 2008


My Gurls from The Orange County Dept Of Education
Me & My Gurls from The Orange County Department of Education

When I worked there I was Director of Family Services, you can Google my name, they still have me listed as an employee ;-) I'll be Back!

Hey Guys, I hope everyone out there is having a good day and a Happy New Year :-) Once again I want to say thanks to all of my new blogging fam, the comments are all so supportive, you guys make me feel good I decided to do this blog thing. Right before X-Mass my Aunt broke me out of the Adult Care facility (Nursing Home) and I am happy to announce that I will finally be returning to my Condo, yes I am very happy about that. Truth be told, Living in that environment was not the business, That was a place of decline, not incline and I am on the INCLINE.

People see me now and they are shocked, When I was admitted to the hospital after I passed out on Valentine's morning 2007, My family was told I had ZERO chance of survival. I was placed in an induced Coma for almost 2 months to keep my brain from swelling and to reduce the risk of further Brain Damage and a condition called Vasospasm. Near the end of the 2nd month in that Coma I opened my eyes and began to go through every stage of consciousness, from Coma to Vegitative State to Minimally Conscious to the state I am in now. For my family this process has been long and scary, for me It all happened in a split second, I still can't believe almost a year has passed.

So here I am, At war with myself trying to regain total control of my body, My Aunt moved my arm the other day, I hurt so bad I slipped and called her a Bitch, I was a spontaneous type response, she laughed at me and said "What did you call me?", remember I have difficulty speaking LOL. In a few days I will be at my own house, my Grandmother and Uncle moved out here from South Carolina to help me get back on my feet, SO pray for me guys.

Now since I'm new to this being tagged thing, I was slow to respond. I was tagged by Kimpossible, this is a nod to her. Warning my 8 weird things may not be so weird.

1. I once told Mike Bibby (Of the Sacramento Kings) him and his team were "Weak" and would never beat the Lakers, this was during the Playoffs back in 2001. I saw him at the Beverly Center after a Game.

2. When I was a little girl I owned a Monkey.

3. I am a Career Woman, Yet I Love to Cook for lots of people.

4. I started point gaurd on the Girls Varsity basketball team at San Clemente High School.

5. I have appeared in many Music Videos, BET Specials, Movies and Sitcoms. As a matter of fact I actually paid my bills and lived good off of acting and being and extra. I feel like I had a serious shot at making it in Hollywood, the Weird thing about me however, I was unwilling to do all of the "extra" things you need to do to make it. I made it all the way up to the point where you needed to have sex with a few people to get that good role, I just couldn't do it. I'm glad I was attending Grad School while I was doing all of that, so when the time came I just quit ;-)

6. While I was doing my Hollywood thing me and several other gurls were hired to be servers at some big time movie producers pre-oscar party. We were painted gold from head to toe, that was crazy. when it was over I drove over to my ex-dude's house like that, he tripped out when he saw me.

7. I am from the South, I moved to Orange County from South Carolina when I was in the 9th grade. Most people when they move here from other places they are quick to convert themselves into Southern Californians. They wanna act like they were from California all along, not me though, I have always maintained my Southern Status. Even before being being from the South became Hot.

8. Even though I am not Ghetto, Even though I am a very professional and progressive woman, I had to put hands on my fomer fiance's babymama. Yes, while at a parade in Orange County this female threw water in my face, I had done nothing to her. I beat her until serveral people restrained me, I am not proud of that.

I hope those 8 things were good Kim ;-)

I want people out there to know this about me, I am not here to beg for help, If you can help do what you can. I guess my plight sheds light on the realities of health care and insurance, because I have insurance. The problem is that I need very aggresive therapy that for some reason is not covered by insurance, isn't that strange?


Rethabile said...

Cheers to you. Nice blog, keep it up.

Shai said...

Congrats on the move. I was wondering how things were, I stop by here and check on new posts.

How do you feel about folks having a strong dislike for BET and its videos? How do you feel about Karrine Steffans aka Supahead?
Do you regret doing any of the videos?

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Ali's Zay said...

It's good to learn more about you. Thanks again for stopping by, but there is one thing to clarify. I'm not Ali. Ali is my fiancee. A member of my blog family started calling me Ali's Zay (Alizé) way back cause everybdy knows my heart belongs to Ali. But thanks for making me smile. I hope to return the favor.

Ali's Zay

little miss me said...

nice blog.

The Lone Beader said...

Wow. You have been through a LOT, girl! Stay strong!

Deb said...

Thinking of you as your continue to heal.

BTW, pretty funny that you owned a monkey. Was it an easy pet to care for?

Ms.L said...

Wow,you're doing so good!
I'm glad to see that!

I'm 34 and my doctors are trying
to find out why I had a strange
brain attack last year. I think it was a stroke(it runs in my family) because I had speech problems and a drooping eyelid afterwards but it hasn't shown up on any scans so the big search is on to try and figure out what is wrong before it happens again.

It's really nice to meet you! Thanks for stopping by my blog:)

Tom_Gurl said...

I'm an infamous lurker....however I'm coming out to say hey...congrats on the move! Your determination is admirable....I'm here rooting for ya!

Kawana Aminata Oliver said...

@ rethabile

Thanks for the Love ;-)

@ Shai

I don't like BET to much these days. Also back in the days BET was kind of shiesty with the paychecks, they use to actually bounce. Karrine Steffans is a whore, So with that being said nothing she does suprises me, there use to be plenty of females like her on the video set back in the days. Any dude that lays down with her should expect to be put on blast. Oh and I don't really regret doing videos because it was a good experience, I never did anything that I regret, thats probably why I never made it big LOL.

@ ali's zay

Thanks for the visit ;-)

@ Little miss me

Thanks for tha Love Gurl ;-)

@ The Lone Beader

I'm still going through it ;-}

@ Dr. Deb

Thanks for visiting me, Oh and yes taking care of the Monkey was very difficult.

@ ms. I

Gurl, Make those Doctors keep checking, trust me you can't even really feel it when it hqappens, it just happens.

@ tom_gurl

Thanks for comming nthru Gurl, feel free to say hello whenevers I appreciate the love. ;-]

therapydoc said...

SO glad you're here!

Barbara said...

Kawana, thanks for stopping by my blog because now I found YOURS! You have an incredible story here! WOW! Plus, we're "neighbors" I live in OC too.

By any chance was that parade you were at the annual return of the Swallow's Day Parade in San Juan? It just sounds like something that would happen there.

I will be back to read more!

Case Quarter said...'ve been through so much yet have accomplished so much at the same's rare to find that...keep it up...stay strong!!

Kai C. said...

awwww may i put you on my fvorites?...

Oracle said...

Nice blog you've got.

Happy new year, you're in my prayers.

Ticia said...

Hey Girl!!!
You are on your way!!!
Keep praying your healing scriptures everyday! Its coming!

Casdok said...

Thank you for your comment on my blog. And thank you for telling your story. (H)

Michelle's Spell said...

Hi there! Love the blog. You do an excellent job explaning your condition. And the health care system is wretched! I'll be supoorting you all the way! Have to catch up on all the posts when my semester gets underway -- can't believe the holidays are over.

get zapped said...

I appreciate your honesty and the fun weird things you shared. Your story is very powerful and I wish you all the strength, courage and faith for a full recovery. Peace and joy for the new year!

Wayne said...

You make the skies blue, you.
The clouds rain
The sun come up again
The wind turn grass a shade of brown,
You do.
Because of you
Snow falls and lies
And sees to it that children's cries
Avalanche to starry skies.
It's you.
It's all because of you.

CrackerLilo said...

Oh, WOW. I just saw your comment at my blog, so I checked you out, and all I can say is, "I was complaining about *bedbugs*? Dang-a-rang.

Thank you for blogging about your experience, and congratulations on this next step in your recovery!

Nice to see another transplanted Southerner keepin' it real in the big city, too. :-)

Shai said...

BET bounced checks? Interesting. Thanks for the info. I saw part of the video you posted, that's why you look familiar.

I am glad you are doing so well. I have been wanting to ask: Is blogging therapeutic for you? Does it help with physical therapy also?

I think it is so awesome how you are sharing your amazing recovery. Have you ever thought about writing a book regarding your experience?

Lana Gramlich said...

Thanks for stopping by & commenting on my blog. I'm terribly sorry to hear of the problems you've been having. You're in my thoughts. I hope 2008 brings you nothing but goodness & aid. Peace to you & yours.

MYSTI said...

Happy New Year to you also! Thank you for visiting my blog. I just got done reading your story and also your weird things about you post, and found we have a lot in common believe it or not. I have a lot of health issues, (fibromyalgia,lead poisoning, and a bleeding disorder called von willabrands.) I understand about health costs. My mother passed away of bleeding of the brain, so yes you are very lucky indeed. Where you moved from the south to west, i was born and raised in california, SanFranando Valley, and moved to the south. :) Virginia. I enjoyed reading your blog, and will be praying for you and your family. I am going to bookmark your blog. :)



alan said...

Thank you for your visit and the smile you brought me!

Your story could be a movie in it's own right! Wow...

Your strength and courage in fighting against the odds, not only through this but before as well are inspiration; thank you for being you!


Rue said...

Hey, thankyou for dropping by my blog. It meant alot. I know there were very few words spoken but it's odd how from a stranger they can mean so much. I guess because a stranger has no hidden agenda, you know?
anyway, for the record..this stranger thinks your beautiful, and I mean that in a woman to woman way...not a gay way...because I am not gay.. not that there is anything wrong with that..oh geeze I am making a mess of this.

Brown Girl Gumbo said...

Great blog! Thanks for stopping by mine. I will add u to my blogroll and will keep you in my prayers. I wish u the best! :-)

Jinta said...

well done, kawana. i think your condo will be better for your rehabilitation.
re not being ghetto, once in a while a little bit of ghetto is good for all of us

newnorth said...

wow, powerful story. Glad to hear you are back home and hope everything is going well!

heiresschild said...

thanks for stopping by my poetry blog. i think your own personal environment will be a big help towards your recuperation also. you're blessed to have family to help you out. will continue to keep you in my prayers.

Scott said...

Hi. I understand about the insurance. They denied me and tried to let the cancer take me before they would pay for care. But I had some strong family who fought them when I couldn't. So I am still alive. I am sorry you had the stroke. Do they know what caused it? I went to your doctor's site--are you going to have hyperbaric oxygen? I think I will need that therapy, too!

Marcus LANGFORD said...

Though I do not know you, I appreciate you stopping by my blog to leave your "Happy New Year" comment.

I must say that your story brought up a welling of tears. You are truly inspirational and I am not just saying that to be saying it. I mean to be going through everything that you are and still working with a ray of such positivity. Just reading your story, has motivated ME to want to take on the world and I have realized that my problems are little and I should strive to enjoy life and work hard.

Thank you for stopping by and continue to stop by anytime; I would love to see you.

With much respect.


Josie said...

Omigosh, you are one brave lady! I want to know how you're doing and how you progress, so I'm going to come back and visit you more often.

the sidog said...

Nice Blog and happy new year !

30+ said...

Hi Kwana just stopped by to show some love. You are very much in my prayers.

anonymous gal said...

hey congrats u movin home.been a follower of ur blog though i rarely drop comments.

stuck in my throat o said...

I am happy you are better. You begin to understand why God gave us families when you have problems.

Congrats girl!!!I am happy for you.

James Tubman said...

your story of recovery is so inspiring to so many others in your condition

keep it up

we all are pushing for you

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jumpinginpuddles said...

wow you are so courageous, thats an awful lot to combat and you are doing it amazing

Ticia said...

Just stopping through!